Men, Do You Know Who You Really Are?
How many times have you thought to yourself “If only they really knew…” ? If only they really knew what you really thought, what you really wanted to say, what you really wanted to do. If only they knew who you really are. Why is this such a common experience for men?
Men are socialized to fit neatly into a box society created for them. They’re taught that to be a real man you’ve got to be successful, aggressive, desirable, sexual, never feminine, etc etc etc. This impacts men from a very young age by teaching them to become who they are told to be, not who they want to be.
How would your life change if you became who you wanted to be—not who you were told to become?
I want you to just picture for a moment, what would your life look like if you didn’t have to worry about what other people wanted your life to be? Seriously, think about it.
What would you do for work?
What qualities would describe you and your personality?
What hobbies would you take up? What hobbies would you let go of?
What would your social life look like?
How would your relationships with your family look?
What would your sex life be like?
What qualities would describe your life and your relationships?
How close does that life look like to your current one? Now I know there’s a lot of good reasons you can’t do everything you pictured-it’s not realistic to live your ideal life and be your ideal self all the time. But if what you pictured is drastically different from your current life, you may be stuck on prioritizing what you were told your life needs to look like. I wonder if there are certain areas in your life where there’s an opportunity to be more yourself, and live more authentically to what you want life to be like? If you find yourself wondering that too, you might consider reaching out to a mental health professional to help you explore deeper and find ways to reach a meaningful life!
